I really didn’t understand the importance of Self-Care until I had a mental breakdown. I felt constant sadness. I felt unworthy of being happy. I wouldn’t allow myself to enjoy my son’s milestones. I knew I had to face myself and change. Getting to know yourself and what you need is going to consist of trial and errors. What may work for someone else may not work for you. I’ve read endless articles, books, and browsed many YouTube videos. I put a action behind my personal goals. Here are a few personal steps I’ve incorporated that have drastically changed my life:
1. Meditation mornings: Before you grab your phone in the morning and start scrolling social media take about 10 minutes to meditate. This will reduce stress, create a sense of calm, and allow to you live in the present. One of the worst things you can do is start your morning thinking about the past and cluttering your mind. (If you don’t know where to start there are plenty helpful videos on YouTube!)
2. Seek a Therapist: Over the past 26 years of my life I’ve had my share of traumatic events that were hindering my growth. This year I finally faced my fear of being vulnerable with a complete stranger so I could address my past in order to live in the present. There is but so many times your friends and/or loved ones will sit and listen to the traumatic events and but so much help they can give. Invest in yourself! If you don’t have insurance look into “Talk Space”, an online therapy. You can start therapy with a liscensed therapist via text, FaceTime, or phone.
3. Surround yourself with positivity: You will outgrow some of your friends (unfortunately family too) and that’s okay. Some people are just not on the same path as you. Surround yourself with people who want you to consistently level up. Negative energy can really effect the positive changes you are trying to make.
4. Travel: Whether a solo drive, family trip or girls trip. Take some time out your typical schedule to enjoy time with yourself and the ones you love. Create memories! We weren’t born to only pay bills and die.
5. Be Consistent: This is extremely important. Self growth doesn’t happen over night just like abs don’t appear after only one week of being in the gym and eating clean. It takes time. You may take one step back then go three steps forward. Sometimes it can difficult to shake of habits you’ve develop since your childhood. For me it was easy to be loyal and consistent to everyone else in my life and to put myself at the end of the list. But in order to really be there and to take care of my son I have to be consistent with taking care of myself!